Toilet training can be a very challenging time for both parents and children but regrettably, there is no instruction manual on how it can be successfully achieved!
Here are some tried and tested, toilet-training tips:
Accept the differences: Right at the onset, it is important to remember that, even in the same family, different children develop their life skills at various times so parents really have to be patient and approach the challenges with a positive mindset. Parents often think that there is something “wrong” with a 3 or 4-year old child who is not toilet-trained. Remember, a child”s success at toilet-training does not reflect on his intelligence or the competence level of his parents! Children develop differently and some are just late bloomers.
Define the language: Decide, with the help of your toddler, family, helper or babysitter, on the terminology you are going to use to describe urinating and defecating. Is it going to be “poo” or “kaka”? Is it “wee-wee” or “shee-shee”? Whatever it is, be consistent with the words and make sure that the main caregivers are familiar with the words.
Recognise the readiness: Before you begin, it is important to ensure that your child is able to understand what you say as well as communicate with you when he wants to use the toilet. After that, look out for these signs:
Does he sleep through the night without wetting his nappy or are there long periods during the day when his nappy is dry? This means that the child”s bladder and bottom muscles are fully developed.
He might show an interest to watch “papa”, “amma” or “abang” go to the toilet. At this stage, introduce your child to his own potty as he will learn by imitation.
At other times, he may stop at an activity and attempt to go off to a quiet corner while squatting. Gently coax him to the toilet when you see these signs.
Establish the routine: Children love routines and learn quickly through repetition. So watch your child and try to figure out his routine ” does he do his “kaka” after his mid-morning porridge meal? Does he “wee-wee” half an hour after he drinks? Pick up on these cues and plan your potty training around these patterns. Parents should also remember that regular bowel habits are linked to adequate intake of fiber and adequate fluids.
During the initial stages of potty-training, parents should also ensure that there are no major changes in the child”s environment like the introduction of a new babysitter or the arrival of a new baby. Such events can affect the child’s routine and his sense of confidence.
Reward the act: Whether your child succeeds or not in his attempts to make it to the toilet on time, offer encouragement and praise. In fact, some parents even leave a small container of treats in the bathroom so that the child knows that he will be rewarded for his efforts!
Above all, never use harsh words or express disappointment when there is an “accident”. Some parents even punish the child “so that he will learn”. Your child will sense your negativity and become resistant to the process.
Toilet training is a milestone every child goes through. It can be an exciting and rewarding time for your child but remember that the process is only as complex or as simple as you make it. Your patience and positive attitude will be required to help your toddler develop the necessary skills to achieve this developmental milestone.
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